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Parents… Kids… School Supplies…

helicopter momParents, please stop complaining… Stop reading if you do not want the truth, LOL.
Don’t you remember when we went into school the first day and were told what supplies we NEEDED by the NEXT day? That’s how school was back then. We had to have very specific supplies by the second day.  That meant going to 2-3 stores sometimes. I remember going to Christie’s around the corner when I got home with my list. I always saw classmates shopping too. The store was a mad-house. And in about the 4th grade I went around the corner to that store alone with the list in my hand because my mom was working. She likely left the money on the dining room table for me. It was very crowded, but I was familiar with the store so I survived.
If our teachers demanded specific supplies, why can’t today’s teachers make kids accountable too? And now, it’s easier than ever, there are supplies lists online in advance. And there are office supply stores all over the place.
Just a general thought…
Parents might be less stressed if they gave their kids a little more responsibility like we all had growing up.
If parents let their KIDS be accountable for more each year, the kids may grow up to be responsible adults. Parents should let kids make mistakes and let them feel the consequences of bad decisions on occasion. Mistakes are often how people learn.
Helicopter parenting drives me nuts… Give your kids credit. They are smarter and more capable than you think. This comes from training kids for 40 years, studying child psychology, and growing up dyslexic and surviving with a B average in Catholic schools and college. Other than a math tutor for a short time in 3rd grade, no one helped me with homework.
It’s OK if you disagree. I’ve seen thousands of kids and the results. You may have only seen your 2 or 3 kids and a few relatives.  I was coaching at 12 years old through a YMCA Leadership program and delivered the newspaper in the mornings.  If I did all that, your kids CAN do what they should be doing regarding their school work, sports, and any other responsibilities you give them.
Good luck with the upcoming school year… And let your KIDS do their own stuff.
If you enjoyed this rant, you’ll love these two books for young girls…


web-sports-lessons-front-co“Sports Lessons Learned”  2015
Amazon Link: http://a.co/d/3nQt0iA
Stories of female athletes who learned life lessons through various sports.

 “Gymnastics Lessons Learned”  2013

Gymnastics Lessons Learned: Life Lessons through Gymnastics


Amazon Link: http://a.co/d/eKrA2UX
Stories of gymnasts who learned life lessons through gymnastics.

Let me know how I can help your athlete… I gladly do radio and tv interviews and book signings for schools, libraries, stores, and private groups.

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How to Increase Athlete Confidence…

How to Improve Athlete Confidence…

Someone asked how to build a gymnast’s confidence… The most common thing parents tell me after I work with their daughter is that their confidence has greatly increased.

Here’s my advice…
web-alexisbeamConfidence takes time to build. It happens after a series of successes and good days in the gym, school, or work. Confidence in an athlete/child is greatly affected by a coach, parent, or teacher. It is the adults along with those small successes often that help a child become more confident.

In sports lack of confidence can actually be a safety risk. lack of confidence can lead to worry, lack of focus, and even an accident. We should help our athletes build skills progressively and remind them of each success along the way. For the safest training possible, teach drills, build strength, teach skill progressions with perfect technique, then introduce the skill and build on that. Eventually the skill may be used in competition. Remind your athlete that they went through a long process to learnt hat skill and that is a great success. With each small feeling of success comes more confidence.

Remind your athlete often, possibly even daily, of all the progress she has made, the adjustments/corrections to skill technique she made, and how far she has come since she started the sport. We all started at the beginning, even coaches.

Give her a physical challenge (not extreme) daily and ask her if it was difficult. If she says yes, tell that she should feel good about getting through a difficult challenge and completing all the work. Remind her that many people cannot do all the work she has done that day and she should feel a real sense of accomplishment. Send her home with positive thoughts on her accomplishments and successes.

Increasing confidence is a process, but daily reminders of how hard she has worked, small successes often, and a reminders of her success work to improve an athlete’s confidence. As a coach it is important to help an athlete see how great they are. be the coach that boosts your athletes confidence. They will go through life happier, healthier, and remember your training forever.

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Many gymnastics and cheerleading coaches do not know the science behind flexibility… It’s sad.

My reaction to this situation… http://www.ketv.com/article/local-cheer-gyms-react-to-colorado-cheerleading-video/12092617

So sad… Many gymnastics and cheerleading coaches need more education on flexibility and conditioning…

web-flexibilityI’ve seen a horrible gymnastics coach do this too. She was fired from one gym, but she is coaching gymnastics again in another gym. It IS ABUSE. If your child’s coach is manually stretching them to the point of tears remove them from that team immediately. There are plenty of good coaches to train with in this country. Your child does not need this physical damage or emotional trauma in their lives!

There IS a way to increase flexibility drastically without all of that pain and trauma. It is not always the muscle group that is tight. It is often the neurological system that will not allow more range of motion. It is literally locking up.

There are safe, effective ways to manually stretch to increase flexibility. I have done it countless times while keeping my athletes happy and healthy. If your daughter or her teammates need more flexibility I am happy to help them become more flexible without torturing them.

The gymnastics and cheer worlds need more people with the CSCS certification involved for conditioning. (Search online for NSCA CSCS to see what it is.)  I am the ONLY CSCS in NJ with 30+ years of high level/competitive gymnastics experience. Yes, there are MANY wonderful coaches in NJ that I greatly admire and respect, but none with the sports science background. Let me know how I can help your daughter and her teammates,  www.bestgymnasticstraining.com

And if your team needs help, https://karengoeller.wordpress.com/2017/09/13/gymnastics-consultant-and-strength-coach-in-nj

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Dear Helicopter Parents… Don’t Stress Out!

DEAR HELICOPTER PARENTS… DON’T STRESS OUT!!!

You DO NOT have to DO your child’s school projects and homework! You are not helping them learn or become independent by actually DOING THEIR assignments. Let them ask the teacher questions, do the research, and get their own grade. Their adult selves will thank you for it even though they are whining about it now.

I never in my life had help with a school project and only had help with math homework twice even though I struggled. I maintained a B average being dyslexic.

Kids CAN do what they are asked if parents allow them to try. Maybe steering them in the right direction on a project or thought process would be helpful, but to actually DO the project for the child is a disservice to that child. It produces kids who cannot think for themselves, are not accountable for their actions, cannot solve problems, and they will not learn the actual assignment.

YOU are not the student anymore, your CHILD is the student. The teacher may be looking for more interpretation, research abilities, and the thought process than for perfection. Projects are an opportunity to learn that some parents are taking away from their kids. Please don’t do it. Your child will survive doing their OWN work and becoming responsible just as many of us did growing up.

Celebrate when the project is done or celebrate when they get their OWN respectable grade for the project, but please DO NOT take the opportunity to learn away from them. Your child only goes through school once, help them make it the most useful years of their life by NOT doing their assignments. Unless you want to end up with Beavis and Butthead.

Best of luck. I can see that the job of a parent is enormous, draining, and difficult. I have tremendous respect for parents. I have worked with literally thousands of children over the past 30+ years and have studied child psychology. I am still in touch with many who I trained 20 hours a week for several years. I have seen the outcome over and over again with kids who get everything handed to them vs kids who are forced to learn for themselves and be independent. Try to think of it as raising an adult, not only comforting a child. And of course, reward great efforts in a memorable way.

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